In the romance world, men who write romance are very much a minority. The popular conception of a guy who writes romance seems to begin and end with Nicholas Sparks, although of course he doesn’t write romance at all!
Laboring under that shadow, and the many misconceptions which come with it, is a scary thing. It all but ensures we won’t be seen. If we ARE seen, we almost certainly won’t be taken seriously. Everyone seems to be waiting for us to get tired of romance and go do something else. This expectation is not without a certain degree of justification. Still, for those of us who are here and have been through the mill of shitty publishers, vanishing readers, negging from the general public and so on, it’s easy to wonder why the hell we even bother.
Well, I know why we do it. I’m one of you. I know what it’s like to put your best work out there and be told, “Nah, I’m good.” I know how it feels to be told your book is great, but you need to cut the heart and soul right out of it so it will sell. I know what it’s like to have to work three times as hard to get a third of the recognition.
And I’d like to see guys who write romance start being taken seriously, both as authors and as a viable market within the romance genre.
So, I’m putting out a challenge. I’d like to see the guys who write romance unite and become VERY visible, without taking anything away from our, um, otherly-gendered counterparts. Most of them are excellent writers and good people, and we don’t need to throw shade on them or try to make them appear lesser for us to be more obvious and evident to readers and the genre at large.
- I don’t care what you write, as long as it’s romance at its core. Erotic? Sweet? Let’s do it.
- I don’t care whether you’re indie, traditional or self-published. If you’ve got a title for sale, we need to talk.
- I don’t care about your subject matter. LGBTQ, hetero, contemporary, paranormal? Fucking bring it!
All I care about is getting us guys the visibility and support which often seems to be lacking in this genre.
We’re not an oddity or a fluke, and we deserve to be seen.
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